Provide, P̶r̶o̶t̶e̶c̶t̶, P̶r̶e̶s̶i̶d̶e̶ When a father goes out with his...

Provide, P̶r̶o̶t̶e̶c̶t̶, P̶r̶e̶s̶i̶d̶e̶

When a father goes out with his children, it is his responsibility to remain 100% alert to his surroundings. All of the time. His awareness is the shield that allows his children to be unburdened by danger. It gives them permission to relax, to laugh, to play, to be children. But that shield is only real if it is backed by competence.

Awareness without power is paranoia. So the father must also possess the physical strength, the capacity for violence, and the inner command to act with measured aggression when needed. He must be able to assess danger, position himself accordingly, and send a clear signal: “Not this family. Not today.”

When a child sees that their father is not paying attention… when they see him freeze, flinch, get pushed around, or show fear in the face of even minor confrontation, it is a fracture in their worldview. That image of the father as protector collapses. They may not say it out loud, but they will feel it. A deep, primal unease. Something has gone wrong with the world.

And that feeling does not go away.

We live in a world where every man who fails to provide is instantly condemned. You are not making enough. You are not climbing the ladder. You are not a real man. And yet providing is only one third of the duty of a man. The other thirds are protecting and presiding. If you cannot keep your children safe, if you cannot stand in front of them when danger comes, you have failed no less than the man who cannot feed them.

The truth is, in the modern world, we have far more fathers who fail to protect than fathers who fail to provide.

So what should such a man do, if he finds himself soft, submissive, overly agreeable, and too quick to de-escalate by submission instead of domination?

There’s only one choice for the father. He has to go trans…

…in the original, rightful sense of the word. He must transform into a real man.

That means putting on 40 pounds of muscle over the next couple of years. That means taking martial arts. That means getting coaching to fix his psychology and his attitude toward life. He has to learn to speak, act, and carry himself like a man. It is the only way he’s going to regain the respect of his son, his wife, and his daughter.